Lay on the eye contact. Start out with what’s called a Type I glance (your eye sweeps the room, passing by your prospect), then move on to a Type II glance (short, darting glance), then a Type III (you hold someone’s gaze for a second, then look away.) The longer you can look, the stronger your feelings may grow for each other—provided, of course, that all that eye contact is mutual. Otherwise, staring at someone who’s not staring back will just come off as creepy.

One of the things you can do to kick off your plan to change your love life is a home makeover. Take the time here to consider what in your environment at home, work, or school might be keeping you locked into your dating type, or what might be discouraging or distracting you from making the changes you desire. Then get rid of it!